Sunday, February 9, 2014

Everyday Blessings: E+R=O

Happy Sunday Everyone!

How is your day today?

I wanted to blog about something that I have been learning about. Its really about changing your perspective.

I have a leader here at Target who actually brought it to my attention. He was presenting at a "Get To Know You" meeting and he was talking about his outlook on life. He presented this philosophy that has been sticking with me for about 2 weeks now!

Here it is:

He said when an event arises, the outcome a lot of times depends on YOUR reaction. Sounds so simple- but yet so many of us forget that sometimes! We like to blame the outcome on the original event, instead of looking at what we could do to change the outcome.

Changing your reaction to a situation involves changing your perspective on it.

For example, lets say you asked your significant other to change the laundry load to ensure the clothes wouldnt start to smell. When you came home, it had yet to be done and the clothes smelled musky.

Most women could instantly get upset and be mad because they would have to rewash the clothes or even that they had to do it themselves. It is easy to be accusatory in a situation like this and pass blame on that person or situation. But that creates bad thinking and a potential negative spiral that doesnt need to happy.

But this leader was saying- change your perspective to the positive first- no the negative. What possible things could you come up with if you are thinking from a more positive perspective?
1) Your partner may have a reason
2) Do they truly understand why its important that the laundry get changed?
3) Before I accuse, let me ask why they didn't do it. (seeking understanding)

Maybe it was an honest mistake of the partner, maybe he needs more understanding why they the clothes need to be changed right away, maybe he ended up having something important come up.

Basically, when you change YOUR perspective to more positive thinking and reasoning, you tend to seek more understanding or look at what you couldve done better instead of accusing someone or the situation for the outcome. Not saying it is your fault, but when you (the reaction) have the ability to get a better outcome, why not take it?

I loved this formula because it shows us that we have a part in every situation that happens in our lives. & whether we ask for it or not, we have the ability to change the outcome.

It reminds me of how God tells us ALL to seek understanding first in all we do... and changing your perspective to the positive does that.

God tells us women to be the examples to our partners. And by reacting in a way of seeking understanding and being that light (even if you have every right to be upset), you can create a better outcome.

Its the law of God! That is what is so amazing about this. Who knows if this leader knew he was touching on principles of the bible, but many times God teaches us that life is about love, joy, understanding, faith, hope- but that all has to do with perspective and choice. If you change our perspective and outlook to love and understanding, then you wont have the time to be hateful and accusing.

A lot of things God tells us in the bible is about how we can change ourselves to better honor and please him. & this is one way to do that- to focus on how YOU can effect a situation in every situation and how your perspective on the situation and how you want to react to a situation can make all the difference in the outcome.

Here are some scriptures you can study to get a better understanding about how you can change our perspective and reactions:

Romans 12:1-2- we are changed by renewing (transforming) our minds
Ephesians 4:22-25 - to live differently, we must think differently
2 Corinthians 5:14-17- changing is about learning and appreciating God's love and sacrifice for us
Matthew 22:37-40- Love everyone as yourself
1 Peter 2: 21,22- Jesus is our example, we are called to follow in his footsteps
Matthew 15:18; Proverbs 4:23- everything you do flows from the heart
Matthew 12:34-37The way you act is determined by your attitudes and intentions. People and circumstances may influence you, but you do not have to give in. You do what you decide to do

What do you think of this formula? Do you think you can apply it to situations in your life?

1 comment:

  1. love this! Such a great process of thinking - I will definitely apply it!


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